Hello everyone welcomes to the fam for all.
moms my name is Alexa quite and this
is the gorgeous Susan Yara we have a
the very fun subject today what are we
talking about girlfriends well you guys
might have seen that I announced I am
prey and you know that’s what the topic
is about it’s when do you announce that
you’re pregnant on social media and when
do you tell people you know it’s just
one of those things where you’re like
when do I do this yeah yeah when Susan
congratulations I’m so excited I’m so
happy for you I know this is something
that you’ve talked about on social media
that you wanted and you know you want to
complete your family rubbed it out with
one more little one more just one more
that’s all I wanted I just want two
babies in my life mm-hmm and I’m
good to go
how are you feeling um I feel pretty
shitty I know I’m laughing because he
said it cutely yeah I know you
are in the ex yeah yeah it’s definitely
a more challenging pregnancy this time than it was
the first time I was like
this is Bray I don’t know what
everyone’s talking about pregnancies
awesome
this one I’m like I don’t want anything
I don’t want to do anything I think when
I was blow-drying my hair today I had to
take like three breaks because I was
just so out of it it was terrible yeah
but you know what it’s okay good cause
there’s a good cause, but you know it’s a
funny thing because I announced I I was
pregnant a touch earlier just a touch
earlier than I did the first time the
first time I was so paranoid I announced
I waited until I was like almost midway.
through my second trimester because I
was waiting to like just make
sure everything was okay and at that
the point I was like I mean what else am I
waiting for I mean, I think I was just so
paranoid about it all going well that I
waited to announce it on social media
I’d already told family and friends and
everything but I don’t know but this
the time I feel a little more relaxed about
it which is interesting I don’t I think
and correct me if I’m wrong this is how
I was maybe it’s because you feel like
if you did have a miscarriage or
something that you’d probably talk about
it that as well that’s true that’s true
if I did have a miscarriage, I would
probably talk about it I think there’s
something about like when you want that
first baby and that process to get there
feels a little bit hard and scary and
you’re so anxious and everything I
thought that you yeah you just don’t
want things to go wrong and then like
the second time around it’s it’s true
you
like your veteran like you’ve already
done this it wasn’t as hard as you made
it out to be the first time around and I
think you just get more comfortable with
who you are in your body and everything
when I was pregnant with the Driss my
first I was nervous too I think
like a lot of new moms are oh my god I
want this to go well I you know I want
to make it to the second trimester which
a lot of people say that you know it the
the chance that you can have a miscarriage
goes down drastically once you’ve gotten
to the second trimester and I was just
like excited and nervous about
the whole thing and the difference
from going from not being, you know from
you to mom is a more significant change than you
adding on to the mom yes you know which
I mentioned before mom is to the mom.
nice whatever um yeah so I remember
waiting with the dress until I was like
in my second trimester to tell the
internet world like I told I
told Michael first I told him right away
right after I took the pregnancy test I
was like oh my god we have a human
coming and then I think I even waited for a
little longer to tell my family with the
dress than I did with Cyrus I think I
waited until I was like I don’t even
remember but maybe closer to like eight
weeks
yep you know so I was a little bit more
in it I’d gone I’d had an ultrasound I
knew that there was something in there
at least at the time, I told him and then
when I put it on social media and Mike
announced it on the Internet’s I think I
was like 14 weeks or so yeah I feel like
yeah went real fast with it like you you
the not only announced day I felt like you
had his name you had like you like with
the gravy full-blown oh well yeah Oh
with Cyrus yeah yeah with Cyrus
everything was fast because I also
felt like okay if for some reason I have
a miscarriage probably be
something I’ll open up about eventually
yeah you know so I felt comfortable and
I remember thinking about that before I
started telling people and before I
posted about it on social media that
like okay this is a little earlier than
I’ve done in the past will I be okay if
something goes wrong or whatever and I
remember thinking to myself yes I will
be and I will talk about that it won’t
be easy, but I will talk about it and
luckily for me Cyrus nothing you know
everything he’s excellent, and he’s here that
was a long time ago
but I think that’s something that you
have to think about when you are
starting to tell people are you going to
feel comfortable telling them if
maybe something goes wrong I know that
sounds dark to think about yeah but I
guess that’s sort of yeah kind of true
but you know what I I think I’ve decided
this time around is you know I’m very
superstitious that’s actually that plays
a role mm-hmm and these just these kinds
of decisions for me like if I say
something now is I going to like a jinx
myself or something like that I get like
that but at the same time I you know I
think at the end of the day truly
something can happen all the way through
to the very end right like there’s
always a possibility and you know you
just got to kind of be comfortable with
who you are and what happens and
announcing anything I mean we put so
much of ourselves on the Internet that
you know to me it’s kind of like you
know was I going to hide this if something
bad happened I’m not going to write I’m
not going to maybe the first time around
I might have and like just like you know.
brushed under you know swept it
under the carpet or somebody thought but
this time around I don’t think I would
do that I would I’d probably have some
serious conversations with our viewers
and yeah that said I think for for
people that aren’t sharing every detail
their lives with the Internet you know I
think it does you know there are a lot
of different factors and one of those
factors are superstition mm
you know if they want to if they feel
like they might jinx themselves and
second, you know it is feeling
comfortable feeling like you want you
know yes there’s a lot that comes with
it people are then watching you the
the minute you say you’re pregnant, there’s a
a lot that happens like I you know some of
the people I was worried about telling
we’re not the Internet it’s like people
I work with clients that kind of thing.
like you know no not you you’re like
perfect but like you know you feel like
maybe people you work for mm-hmm might
be disappointed instead you know it
shouldn’t be that way shouldn’t be one
of those things where like your
employers get upset about you having a
baby but you know deep down inside
they’re like oh man that means that
she’s going to have you know to take that
maternity leave time off she’s going to
you know potentially have problems a
a second child like she’s going to be calling
in all the time and all that kind of
stuff so I think those are things that
you have to like get okay with and be
ready to be confident about when you’re
announcing it right people yeah totally
and I mean we do live in a time where
announcing your pregnancy on social
media is something that a lot of people
get excited about and want to do
and it’s sort of like part of our
culture now even if you’re not somebody
who regularly shares bits of your life
on the Internet you know a lot of people
put pressure on themselves maybe to have
this elaborate beautiful pregnancy
an announcement or adding to the child with
you know balloons or a gender-reveal and
it’s a good thing so much social I have
seen especially I feel like in our
industry being influencers and stuff and
putting this kind of stuff out over the
the last couple of years I have seen some
big things that people have done huge
like a lap, it’s like they went and did
these giant photoshoots and stuff just
to announce they were pregnant on the
media and it’s kind of crazy but guess
what you guys you don’t even need to
announce it yeah guess what you own your
privacy yes all on you what you want to
do yeah absolutely I certainly know
people that are like yeah I’m pregnant
not trying to tell anybody about it just
maybe I’ll wait to have the baby and
then maybe I’ll be like I had a baby or
maybe not you know whatever but I think
it’s so personal when you tell
somebody you’re pregnant how you tell
them who you tell you to know there’s
there’s also I remember with both
pregnancies there was like tears of
people, I would tell like first round was
like you know my friends and family
the tight tight tight crew that I would tell
that I had a miscarriage too if I did or
whatever and then there’s the second
tier and then there’s the Internet you
know or whatever that’s how I kind of
thought of it in my mind yeah
everybody’s so different from how they
want to announce and what they want to
do so just you have the power and the
control of reporting but I’m so excited
that you reported it to me I I mean I
remember both times you told me you’re
pregnant and I’m excited yeah
yeah anyway I loved it I like the way
you said to me like in a very
the matter-of-fact way that didn’t get my
the period here’s the pregnancy test approve
it did you ask her to ruin in a special
way no I left the pregnancy test on his
sink in the bathroom oh really what’s
this I’m like what do you think it is oh
that’s so funny I remember um Michael
when I told him about Cyrus my second I
tried to do this thing where I got a
dress like this cute shirt that said Big
Brother it I kind of failed because it
said little brother on it and then I
like got the tape and put
Dave over the small part it was a
last-minute attempt to trying to do
something cute so then I was going to try
and wait till our like six-year wedding
anniversary to tell Michael that we were
and do this cute thing like it dinner
and be like so you know and give him
like the test or do something fun and
cute but I’d gone to an event the like
during my fifth week of pregnancy and
one of my girlfriends was like oh my god
you’re pregnant aren’t you oh you didn’t
have wine, and I was like which I guess
it was as if I mean that’s an enemy
and I was like how does she
know already
dammit I better tell Michael like he’s
got to be the first person to know so
then that’s when I did this like
last-minute reject brother shirt for a
drew that just kind of didn’t go well at
all and I remember I told Michael in the
the hallway I was like it Driss is going to be
he and a big brother was just like what
you know it took him a while and the
the first thing that came out of his mouth
are you’re not going to make me go to those
birthing classes again are you not like
yay but like the trauma of the birthing
lessons that I Drive you to yeah anyway
it’s just it like so didn’t go the way
that I thought it was going to go in my
a mind so there you go yeah you can plan
and then it just blows up in your cute
little face do you know I do like seeing
the creative stuff I do too it’s a happy
the moment you guys yeah be pleased for
yourself but give yourself a break yeah
and don’t put pressure to do what
everybody else is doing I remember I
announced by holding up a can of prego
spaghetti sauce not original just
thought it was funny anyway that’s all
have you guys announced her pregnancy
how’d you do it tell us in the comments
are you not into it what do you think
yeah what do you think is the best time
to announce that you’re pregnant tell us
I have to know
yeah and then you see if you tell
coworkers how about how that all goes
let’s talk about it let’s talk about it
all right guys we’ll see you soon have a
good day bye you